Generating Some First Date Ideas

First dates are exciting and awkward at the same time.

While you might dream of being swept off your feet and taken to some exotic place in a private jet…

…it’s probably not realistic.

Every relationship starts somewhere.

Even if you’ve known each other a long time and just started as friends. 

So when he asks, “What would you like to do?”  what is your answer?

Do you give the usual, “Whatever you want to do is fine.”  Blah!

Don’t do that.

Throw the guy a bone at least – what do you like to eat? Are you a vegetarian?

Do you have allergies? Tell him.

Otherwise don’t complain if you walk out in a silk dress and heels for the date he planned for riding go-karts. Without feeling like you’re directing the date or squashing his ideas, you can offer a few suggestions.  

If both of you are sports fans, you can say that you don’t have to go to the baseball game (with expensive tickets) – you enjoy grabbing sub sandwiches and watching the team on TV just as much. 

For active sports participants, mention that you have your own skates, bike and tennis racket if he would enjoy any of those activities on your first date.  That gives him several choices and tells him that you have the right equipment for each activity.

If you’re more the indoors type, you can say that something you like to do with friends is go to the early movie then go out for dessert and coffee.  When you have a special coffee hangout place, you can challenge him to a game of chess or other board game where the winner buys lattes and the loser buys the donuts. 

If you have strong feelings about certain types of violent movies or R rated movies, then tell him before he buys tickets. Even if you make the suggestion to visit an art gallery after dinner, ask him if he’s been there before. 

If any place you suggest has an expected dress code, don’t let him be embarrassed by showing up in cut off jeans and sandals. Mention that one thing you enjoy about this place is that it’s where people dress up – women in dresses and guys in business casual or jackets. 

The first date is complicated enough. Give the guy enough information so he can plan a great night or share the planning with you. Either way, let the only surprise be how the spark ignites between the two of you.